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Number Two: Dance In The Rain
Posted by: | CommentsFirst night after making the list and I am already crossing one off. I know what you are thinking.
What is the big deal? She danced in the rain? So what?
Here is the thing….I despise weather. Snow is cold and wet. Rain is cold and wet. When it is hot it is too hot. When it is breezy the wind is bothering me. I avoid going outdoors for any length of time at all costs. DESPISE. IT.
Much to my surprise as Aiden and I ventured out this evening. It. was. raining.
I wasn’t even considering the list I made yesterday. I was dreading walking into it and making every effort to duck and cover my head. (without a hood on)
Aiden was taking his sweet little time walking ever so casually.
AIDEN IT’S RAINING.
AIDEN IT’S COLD.
Then is hit me. THIS is why I needed to make that list.
I stopped rushing him. I stopped yelling. (because, really that was helping the situation)
I started singing:
“It’s raining, It’s pouring, The old man is snoring”
and suddenly I was a child again standing in the rain. Splashing in puddles and twirling in circles. Aiden giggled with me as we soaked each other in puddles.
Number Two crossed off and a memory made.
Emotional Moments–Handling Them
Posted by: | CommentsI used to have the idea planted in my head that I would good in emotional situations. I remember flirting with the idea of being a therapist and saving the world. Consoling people in their hardest of times and healing hearts with my words.
One day I woke up and I realized I SUCK in emotional situations. I am not sure if this was simply because I know myself better now. I don’t know if I changed and I used to handle them well but no long do. I have no idea how I got from there to here.
I get really uncomfortable when people are upset around me. Mind you, I am a VERY emotional girl. I cry about everything. However, if someone breaks down in front of me it tends to play out like this:
…awkward…look around…
silence.
“It will be ok.”
Awkardly pats on the back…
Silence.
It is not that I don’t care. It is not that I don’t feel bad for the people that are hurting.
Here is the deal: I know that if you are upset there is nothing I can say to change your feelings. There is nothing I can physically do to make you feel better. The fact that I can’t change someone situations to make them better paralyzes me. So I awkwardly attempt to make the situation better…
Here is a question for you: What do you do in these situations?
